..Kenapa? Tak percaya?..

You know, everywhere I go, memang tak lepas lah dari dapat pandangan dan teguran seperti ini “Kak, kembar ker?” or “Dorang twins, ekk?”.

Strangers around always thought that Kakak and Dedek were twins and I am fine with that BUTTTT the annoying part is, contohnya lah kan : Few days ago, we had our dinner at a nearby restaurant and as usual, the waitress was giving a ‘weird’ look to both my kids and as usual, I just smiled.

Not long after, she asked, “Kak, dorang kembar, ekk?” and I gently said, “No”. She then continued, “Bukan, ekk?” and I pun gelengkan my head and added, “Nope, yang depan ni Kakak and yang tepi ni, Adik.”

However, this young lady didn’t move and still insisted that they are twins. “Tapi dorang sama jer, kembar kan?”

By then I was like, aku mak dorang ker ko yang mak dorang ni and plus, I don’t even know you and so, why do I need to lie to you kan? What do I get from that anyways? Tak dek kerja lah ok nak tipu yang anak aku ni twins sungguhpun dorang bukan twins.

Gosh! It was simply annoying!!! My hubby memang dah tak dek nak tengok-tengok pun sebab dia memang dah malas sangat nak layan. I mean, normally people would just say, “La ye ker. Dorang bukan kembar, ekk? Tapi, muka sama jer.” In which, I can still accept. Tapi, yang ini memang nak apa tuh, bak kata pepatah, “Tegakkan Benang yang Basah?” heheh.. betul ke tak, ekk.. main belasah jer! Hahah… yelah, dan-dan tu dia nak menang gak kan.. masalahnya, KAKAK AND DEDEK BUKANNYA TWINS.. ok?

Haih! Penat tau cakap dengan orang cam ni.. lepas tu, she just continued with her waitress duty but before she left our table, she kept on giving ‘weird’ looks to us and both of my kids. Sukati ko lah nak kata apa pun kan!

So, people here are pictures of my lovely daughters a.k.a THE TWINS. Hehehe…

Dulu - Sewaktu masih kecil

Sekarang - Bila dah besar, dah anak dara dah pun :p

KEMBAR kah mereka???

..Hari Mengeratkan Silaturrahim..

I have been wanting to post this entry for a very long time but, I have never got the chance and so today, it is finally up!!

12/12/2009 was Amela’s birthday, a very close and a dear friend of mine from secondary school. When I wished her “Happy Birthday”, as usual she just say thank you. And that was it.

The last time I saw her masa dia tengah berpantang, masa dapat her 3rd baby

Until, I suddenly got an sms from her saying something like, “before my brother tells your brother about me, I think I better tell you first, I am in HUKM”. I got shocked! I mean, yesterday was her birthday and she did not mention anything. However, I don’t want to start thinking of all the nonsense and so, I asked her what was wrong. She was hospitalized for “Eye Ulcer”. *yupp, that is why I wrote about Eye Care for Pregnant Women

I haven’t seen her probably for more than 8 months. The last time was when she gave birth to her 3rd child. I guess, most of us already have their own families, commitments that somehow we could not find the time to meet anymore. It is pretty sad but that is the reality. All of us just moved on!

I am glad that she told me and for that, I went to visit her in HUKM. Although, we had very little time to catch up but, it was very meaningful. I really missed her. I miss those days, the days that we were always together for outings. I’ll go to Shah Alam to meet her and she’ll come over to UKM to meet me and funny thing was, people always thought that we were twins or at least sisters. I still remember how I lie, saying that we are twins and our name were Naeila and Nabila. Hahaha… and even when I went to visit her at the hospital the other day, the doctor thought that I was family and related to her. I guess, we are pretty much still the same!!

So, my dear Amela, do take care of yourself and I suppose no more lenses for you and I miss you so much!!!

But, my “Hari Mengeratkan Silaturrahim” tidak hanya berakhir di situ sahaja. Lepas melawat Amela, I called my bestest friend when I was in college, Marr Malik or I used to like to call her as, Marrpo’ot. Heheh.. sorry, dear!

Inilah dia Marlina@Marr@Molly and me
I told her, I nak singgah rumah dia. I reached her home masa Maghrib and so, tumpanglah solat sekali kan. Normally, I won’t go to people’s house at this hour, but she is exceptional. I have been in and out from her house ever since when I was very young and ‘naïve’. Hahaha.. I even called her mom, ‘Ibu’ instead of the normal ‘auntie’.

Of course, we no longer could share those ‘screaming’ and the oohs and the aahs session. Now it is more, adult, motherly and plus, chaotic with the kids around. Tapi, oklah, dapat jugak melepaskan sedikit rasa rindu.

We had dinner that she cooked, which is Soto Jakarta a very special meal thanks to Iwan, the hubby who make the special request and dapatlah I merasa jugak masakan si Marr ini ;). Sedapss!! Tapi kan, kalau aku ni tak pregnant and tak fussy sangat, maybe aku akan makan puas-puas nyer kot sehingga menjilat pinggan dan jari :p.

Tapi, walau apa pun, sungguhpun masa nya amatlah singkat dan hanya sempat bertanya khabar dan catch up a bit of latest stories, sudah cukup dari tak dek apa langsung kan!

So, itulah hari yang sangat menggembirakan buat saya kerana saya dapat berjumpa dua orang rakan baik saya.

Anda pula bagaimana????

..Eye Care for Pregnant Women..

Eye care should be a priority for Pregnant Women and that includes me!!!

Eye is a very important part of your body. Eye is the one which lets you see if there’s a rainbow in the sky after it rains and acknowledge colours of the rainbow. Eyes are also the ones which we use to focus on something like watching television and eyes which make tears and make you cry when you are feeling sad. Without eyes, none of these are achievable, no?

For pregnant women, extra care is needed for the eyes too especially if you are wearing lenses. You see, most of us know that our body changes when we are pregnant due to the hormones but very little of us notice that eyes are effected too by it, the pregnancy I mean!

As for me, yes I do wear lenses during the day and glasses at night and at the initial stage of my pregnancy, I had to change my lenses and glasses because my power increases and not only that, even my astigmatism (silau) increases too!

However, that was totally nothing until I knew about a very good friend of mine who is also pregnant and suffered ‘Eye Ulcer’. I was shocked to hear about the news and she was hospitalized for a week for it.

Picture thanks to google

According to her doctor, it was caused by her wearing lenses and most probably she use it to sleep during the day *goodness! I do that too!! So, people out there, hopefully this can be a lesson to us. Say NO to sleeping with LENSES ON!!! Definitely a NO, NO!

And so, she was advised to STOP wearing lenses FOREVER because there’s a tendency for BLINDNESS. That’s critical and dangerous don’t you think??

So, for me and for all of you readers too, here are some basic things in which we have to remember to do if you are a CONTACT LENSES WEARER:

• First, make sure your hands are clean before handling your lenses.
• Try not to wear your lenses for more than 12 hours. Make sure you take it off in the evening.
• DO NOT SLEEP with your LENSES ON.
• Rinse your lenses thoroughly before you keep it overnight in the solutions and also, make sure the contact lenses case is clean.
• If you are wearing disposable lenses, make sure you do not wear more than the expiry date.
• Make sure your eyes are not too dry. If it is dry, wet it using eye drops or better still, take your lenses off from your eyes.

I suppose that’s all and maybe if you guys have any extra tips on how to take care of CONTACT LENSES, feel free to add in.

..Missing My Baking Moments..

The cakes that I bake in 2009. From top left : Princess Photo Cake & Kakak Alya's Princess Birthday Cake, 3D Princess Cake, Wedding or Engagement Cake, Ben 10 Cake for Daniel & Phina's Birthday & finally, Carrot Cake without the decoration yet

Haih! Rindunya aku nak mem’baking’… huhuhu…

Before the pregnancy, almost every weekend I will bake or do something, ‘playing around with my tools, utensils in my little kitchen’. However, the moment I got myself pregnant, somehow I totally stopped all the ‘kitchen activities’.

It’s not that I don’t try, I did like making the very simple tiramisu but even then, it took me quite a while to get the momentum. Hahah.. peliks kan!!!

My office mates yang every week dapat jadik ‘tester’ pun dah bising tanya, bilalah I boleh masuk dapur. Kuang3x.

Sorry lah yer, let’s wait until the baby comes out from the tummy and hopefully, after that the ‘kerajinan to bake’ will come again ;).

But, I suppose by that time, I dah tak cukup tangan nak handle since I have a small baby to look after or is that just an excuse???

So, mehlah layan gambar-gambar that I bake or I do in 2009 before 2010 says HI.

Cupcakes "Macam-Macam Ada"

Cookies yang di warnakan oleh both Kakak Alya and Dedek Nadiah ;)

Home Made Chocolates

Blueberry Cheese Tarts.. sedapss!!!

Bubur Sum-Sum : Lazatsss juga!!!

Coconut Jelly yang menyegarkan

Actually, I did lots more but, I don't have the pictures so, ini sajalah.. hopefully, there would be more of these sort of activities for me next year :D. Tak sabar dah ni!!!

..Operasi Hari Krismas?..

If some people were busy celebrating Christmas and to some others, they might be busy spending their long weekend holiday but as for me, I am pretty busy with my own ‘operation’.. heheh…

If last Friday it was, “Operasi Membasuh Stroller” yesterday was “Operasi Cuci Baju Baby”.

It’s not as if I have loads of it, I actually just bought about 17 pairs and I am hoping that it would be enough, hopefully! Well, if it is not enough, Jusco Equine is just like 5 minutes away and I always can ask my hubby to buy new ones, kan?

Anyways, malas nak cakap banyak, below are the proofs of my small operation. Seriyes, penat tau!!

Ku lihat HIJAU... heheh

Sila abaikan gambar semak di belakang itu.. thanks to jiran sebelah yang membiarkan rumah itu kosong dan menjadi hutan..

Ini gambar sebahagian daripada baju-baju baby comelku... and ada gak gambar pokok rambutan yang terbantut tumbesaran nya sebab tuan rumah nya adalah aku.. muahahaha...

Andddd… lepas jer selesai cuci semua baju-baju baby tuh.. apalagi, I hadiahkan myself “Double Choc Nuts”.. sedapppsss!!!!

Sedaps kan?

Wah! Terliur aku.. ni yang rasa cam nak buat lagi jer… hehehe..

So, how was your Christmas Holiday??? Ada best?

.. First Giveaway: Moo Moo Kow™ One-Size Cloth Diaper..

I had to admit, 8 years ago when I had Kakak Alya, my very first daughter, I was clueless about motherhood, babies and whatnot. Since, I was busy struggling for my final year exam and so, I didn’t really read up much. The only thing that I did was going for the weekly lamaze class or prenatal classes and also, just getting myself excited to get baby stuff without even doing any research on anything.

You see, the thing is most of my friends weren’t married yet and especially not pregnant at that time and so, didn’t really have friends to chit-chat about all these. Hahaha.. and now, I blame my friends, huh! Just kidding.

However, this time around I am more matured and plus, I am now clever surfing the net unlike ‘those days’ and also, thank god that most of my friends are already mommies and they still have small babies to give me the extra pointers that I never have gained!

And so, one of the things that I have just came across is ‘Cloth Diapering’. This is very new to me. I have been reading up on this and I feel that, I am very much interested to try ‘Cloth Diapering’. To begin with, I am still browsing the net for information, I have also visited few stores to see the ‘cloth diaper’ itself and all that I could say is, I love it!

Now, here comes the not so good part of it. After looking around and all, I felt clueless due to I do not know how to begin with but reading up http://clothdiapermalaysia.com/ have help me start with something, so thank you.

Also, not only that it gives me the information needed but it leads me to this participation of “First Giveaway: Moo Moo Kow™ One-Size Cloth Diaper”. I really hope that they would consider me as one of the winners because I am already so excited to try it and maybe by getting this, the first impression of it can make me stay forever “Cloth Diapering”. First Impression is very, very important, no?

Anyways, for those who are thinking of “Cloth Diapering” and still very, very new and blur, you can always visit http://clothdiapermalaysia.com/ and http://mummysreviews.com/.

Cutekan? Picture taken from http://www.moomookow.com/

Happy “Cloth Diapering”.

..Kids Vacation to Tiara Beach Resort, PD..

Last week I was on leave and I took the opportunity to bring my kids for a little fun. Initially, I wanted to have a ‘relaxing’ holiday, something like getting a room in Legend Water Chalet but knowing my kids would not be having so much fun, I ended up sacrificing my ‘relaxing’ holiday and turn it into a very tiring one! Haih.. *tak perlah, janji anak happy – kononlah kan?* hahaha…

And so, we booked Tiara Beach Resort and since, we wanted an extra fun, we asked Adi’s twin to tag along. And memang lah, super duper fun lah for the kids. *Cuma mak and bapak lah yang penat ya amat :p*

Ok let’s move on then. When I reached the hotel, I had to do the ‘check-in’ coz it was under my name since we wanted to get a cheaper rate and so, I got it online. I mean, of course I was not expecting a 5* hotel environment and treatment but it is just that, the first impression that I got when I stepped into the lobby was, “Goodness! Why are there so many flies?”

But, shucks man! I have already paid and plus, we are already there and I know that the kids would really love it and so, I tahan kan jugak and took the keys and went off.

Then, next challenge.. hahaha.. *poyo jer kan, challenge*, we then head to our room. At least, the room that we got was situated just in front of the ‘Kiddies Place’ so, oklah. Buttttt… when we enter the lift, gosh! It was so dirty and wet!! *Ok, marilah kita tahankan jugak :p. Marilah kita abaikan perasaan ini demi anak-anak.*

And so, I had to close not only one eye but both eyes to just make it all work. Nonetheless, it does not take long to ‘pujuk me’ coz the moment me, Adi and kids as well as the twin’s family went down to ‘Kiddies Place’ my heart jump with joy, looking at my kids leaping up and down, so excited to jump into the pool and play with the slides and swings and entah apa-apa lagi lah. For a while, I have forgotten that the place was not so great after all.

So, apalagi enough said and let’s just enjoy the humble pictures of Kakak and Dedek and their cousins, Sumaiyah and Farihin having so much fun!!

From the left : Dedek, Farihin, Sumaiyah & Alya

Kakak, Dedek and Adi (Babah) enjoying themselves

From the top : Adi (Babah), Dedek, Sumaiyah & Alya

Adi (Babah) & the twin 'layaning' the kids on the swings

So, cukuplah dengan gambar-gambar ni jer, ekk? Hehehe...

Hotel Rating : 2 stars

My personal comments/review : If only, they maintain it well such as on the cleanliness part of it because I hardly see any workers around at the apartment/rooms and also, as for the flies problem, they could probably put those ‘thingy yang tangkap lalat’ or they could instead close the lobby doors or something.

..Leg Cramp While You Were Sleeping..

I was ym-ing with my friend, Kin when I told her about me getting a leg cramp, two nites ago and up till now I can still feel the pain.

Leg cramps are considered normal during pregnancy to several pregnant women and I am one of the ‘lucky’ ones who got it, as well. Huhuhu..

Leg cramps can be really painful and give you a very uncomfortable feeling not only when you have it but it can drag up to days.

Some people say that it is due to lack of calcium or maybe salt or because your legs are cold.

However, below are some input in which I got from this website :

http://www.justmommies.com/articles/leg-cramps-in-pregnancy.shtml

What causes leg cramps in pregnancy?
It is not known the exact reason as to why leg cramps occur in pregnancy. It is suspected that the expanding uterus may put pressure on the nerves and blood vessels in the leg subsequently causing leg cramps and pain.
How can I relieve leg cramps?
If you experience a leg cramp, you should try to stretch the muscle. This can be done by straightening your leg with your toes coming toward you. You can ask for assistance from your partner if needed. A second person can help to stretch and straighten the leg providing relief. Another approach is standing up to stretch. Massage and rest may also help relieve the pain of leg cramps.
Prevention of leg cramps
Calcium, potassium, and phosphorous supplements have been suggested as ways to prevent leg cramps. Talk with your doctor before taking any supplement. Including foods that are rich in potassium such as bananas and green leafy vegetables and foods rich in calcium such as milk, cheese, and yogurt may give added protection against leg cramps. Stretching regularly, getting adequate rest, and regular exercise may also help prevent leg cramps.

Of course, there’s actually a lot more of information that you can get from the internet but this is just few stuff in which I would like to share.

However, macam biasalah kan, we being ‘orang melayu’ other than whatever the doctors tells you, we ourselves have our own ‘petua’, kan?

Among those petua yang I selalu dengar is like :

1. Kalau nak tidur tu, pakai lah stokin kat kaki and then, pakai lak selimut kasi tutup semua. This is to avoid your legs being cold and also, maybe supaya angin tak masuk dalam badan kah? Aku pun bukannya pandai sangat bab-bab ni, main hentam sajalah… hehehe..
2. And then, ada pulak bagi petua kalau kaki tu dah cramp, tarik lah ibu jari tu. Have anyone tried this before? Aku tak pernah try lagi, so tak sure lah whether effective ke idaknya :p.
3. Ada gak si Kin tu carik kat internet tadi and dia kata, ada yang suggest minum 100 plus. But, yang ini aku tak sure. Sebab apa tau? Masalahnya, minum 100 plus ni sebelum tidur supaya tak kena ker or minum 100 plus waktu kena tuh? Reason being, takkan tiap-tiap malam aku nak kena minum 100 plus and is it ok for a pregnant women to consume 100 plus every single night? And lagi satu, kalau dia suruh kita minum the time yang kita kena tuh, coz selalunya I kena leg cramp ni waktu malam tengah tidur, so does it mean I have to prepare 100 plus next to my bed just so that, when it happens I can just grab it and drink? Sebab aku tak rasa aku teringat nak minumnya sebab dah sakit sangat wooo…Apa lak pendapat korang?
4. Ada jugak yang kata kita kena leg cramp due to kurang garam kan, so adakah ini bermakna we have to take salty food in order to avoid it and if yes, berapa banyak intake of garamkah yang perlu? Payah gak tuh kan!
5. Kalsium lagi satu, so we have to drink milk or eat cheese or take supplement. Kalau macam aku ni, since I don’t drink milk and eat cheese but aku makan cheesecake, cukup tak? Hahahah…
6. Lagi satu cara, masa kena cramp tu, boleh lah buat stretching. Tegangkan sikit otot-otot betis dan kaki tu. Ha! Yang ini memang aku selalu buat, aku memang akan stretch kan kaki aku and then, urut-urutlah. Rasa lah sikit lega lepas tu ;). Tapi, masih kenalah tahan kan ‘kesan sakitnya’ untuk few days sebab rasa sakit itu tidak akan hilang begitu sahaja.
7. Ada jugak yang sarankan supaya sebelum tidur tu, sapu minyak angin kat bahagian kaki and then, nak tidur tu letak lah bantal bawah kaki. Kasi dia tinggi sikit. Ini pun maybe boleh membantu.

Heheh.. itulah sedikit sebanyak yang dapat I sharekan dengan you all hari ini. Tapi tu lah kan, maybe lain orang lain lah caranya so, apa-apa hal pun, tak salah kita mencuba, kan?

So, kalau ada sesiapa yang tahu extra tips selain daripada di atas. Janganlah malu-malu untuk share bersama saya ;).

And as for myself, rasanya I prefer yang sapu minyak angin kat kaki sebelum tidur tu, yelah plus bukan saja kita dapat elakkan dari kena ‘leg cramp’ but itu juga boleh di jadikan satu aktiviti bersama hubby, kan?

Leh lah kita bermanja sikit suruh hubby sapukan dan urut-urut kaki yang penat itu sebelum tidur. Mesti best!!!

..Operasi Membersihkan Stroller..

I am already at my 29 weeks and I must say that I am not quite ready to welcome my baby just yet. Not that I am not ready to have the baby around but it is more of I am not well prepared as in the baby stuff. Well, I probably covered the gears. I have bought few long sleeves, short sleeves, sleeveless, rompers and sleep suits. Hahah.. it may have sounded as if I bought a lot but truth is altogether I only have like 12 pairs? It’s funny that at 7 months I have yet to finish buying stuff for my little one and it’s not that I am not excited. I guess, I only have my ‘pregnancy’ to blame on :p.

So, just to show that we are bit by bit preparing for the newborn thus today, we had ‘Operasi Membersihkan Stroller’. I bought the stroller in UK, 8 years ago when I had Kakak Alya and we used it up till, Dedek Nadiah was big. Then, it was kept in the store room unused.

If you asked me, I probably wanted to get everything brand NEW but, the stroller is still in a very good condition and I do not have any reasons not to use it and so, I have no choice other than to wash it and get it REAL clean!

And so, below is a picture of Adi washing the HUGE GRACO Travel System.



p/s : Do you think I can use the reason of it being TOO HUGE and so, I need one which is smaller and easier to assemble? Heheh.. What do you guys think?

..Salam Maal Hijrah 1431H..

Selamat menyambut Awal Muharram buat semua...

..Doa Untuk Anak..

I was googling for “Doa Akhir Tahun and Doa Awal Tahun” when I accidentally hopped to Oh! Islam and I found these : “Doa Untuk Anak”.

*Below I embed the file from Scribd and if it is not clear you can either do a view full screen or download it to your own pc or you can email me at makcikaini@yahoo.com.
Doa Untuk Anak Dari Ustazah Azma. Via Oh! Islam

The doa includes :

1. Doa Memohon Rahmat

2. Doa Memohon Zuriat Yang Baik

3. Doa Anak Kerjakan Solat

4. Doa Anak Taat Kepada Allah

5. Doa Di Beri Zuriat Menyejukkan Mata Memandang

6. Doa Anak Pandai Belajar

7. Doa Anak Lembut Hati

8. Doa Anak Rajin Sekolah

Harap-harapnya ia dapat di jadikan panduan untuk kita semua.

..Ayie’s Engagement Day – 12/12/2009..

As promised, after a long paused at my end.. hehehe.. manataknya, there’s so much to say, but very little time to write about it all and I have been very busy with my ‘home activities’ and plus, semenjak-dua menjak ni, I get tired easily.

So, here goes the long awaited picture from my baby brother’s engagement... *heheh.. macamlah ada orang yang tunggu pun kan.. but, anyways.. ini hanyalah untuk kenangan di pihak kami semata-mata.. chewah, ayat.. tak mahu kalah.. hahahah*

It has been so long since I last attend any engagement ceremony. Probably the last, was my very own engagement. Heheh.. and that was like, 10 years ago! :D *Nak jer aku letak gambar my engagement yang dah lama itu, but tak dek scanner lah pulak…:p, otherwise dah tepek dah kat sini for mukaddimah, kan?*

Family, Uncles and Aunties berkumpul at my parent’s house that morning before bergerak menuju ke Desa Setapak where my bakal adik ipar stays.

Bacaan doa sebelum bertolak.

Ayie is on the lead. *sekarang ni lelaki yang bertunang pun pergi majlis sekali, tak macam dulu-dulu kan?*

We were stuck in a heavy traffic in MRR2 at Desa Pandan area and since tangan I dah memegang camera yang tak seberapa ini, but gatal jugak nak snap the picture below. Menarikslah!!!

The cute ‘Nippon Paint Advert’ Billboard.

Us with the hantarans.

Again, us with the hantarans but focusing more on me! Hehe..

Group Pihak Lelaki

Hantaran Pihak Lelaki

Biskut Hantaran ordered from Mama Hanis Zalikha, Auntie Nani Rostam

My mom tengah sarungkan cincin ke bakal menantu ‘comel’

Bakal menantu tengah salam cium tangan bakal mak mertua *tudung bakal mak mertua and bakal menantu sama kaler lah, wah! Sudah ada keserasian nampaknya :p*

Close up of my mom and Fissya (my bakal adik ipar)

So, itulah penutupnya acara pertunangan antara Fissya & Ayie.

..Snippet of Ayie's Engagement Day..

Enjoy the 'short-drama' from the engagement - 12pm of 12/12/2009.. the pictures will be posted soon!!!

..BIG DAY that ends with a tragedy..

We arrived at my parent’s house after dinner hoping to see happy faces all over because tomorrow would be my little brother, Ayie’s engagement day. However, it turn out that, Ayie was not able to feel at all excited after receiving a news that one of his close friend who just got married like 4 hours ago died in a terrible car accident.

I could see from his face that he really felt that he lost someone very close and dear to him.

My mother was the one who told me the sad story. According to my mom, his friend just finished the ‘akad nikah’ and on their way back to his house with his parents and the photographer when they met with an accident. My mother knew his friend as well, as his friend did come over to my parent’s place before.

Even though, I do not know his friend but I could feel the sadness, the grief and I could not even imagine how sad the wife must be. A wife who just got married by the father to the husband, bringing a new joy to her life and now, 4 hours later, the husband that she never get to be with at all, died without saying goodbye!

As I type this entry, I could feel tears in my eyes that are just waiting to come down. Yes, Allah lebih menyayangi dia and hanya itulah yang mampu kita ucapkan.

Al-Fatihah untuk arwah Aris Abdul Kadir, both the parents, Encik Abdul Kadir Awang and Puan Habshah and also, the photographer Farhan Musa.

Below is the excerpt I got from Utusan Malaysia Online : Utusan Malaysia Online - Terkini

Orang ramai melihat keadaan kereta yang remuk selepas terlibat dalam kemalangan dengan sebuah bas sekolah yang mengorbankan pengantin baru, Mohd. Ariff Ab. Kadir, ibu dan bapanya serta seorang jurugambar, dekat Pokok Sena, Perlis hari ini. - Gambar FAIZAL ABU HASSAN

Empat termasuk pengantin baru maut kemalangan jalan raya

11/12/2009 6:25pm

KANGAR 11 Dis. - Empat orang termasuk seorang lelaki yang baru melangsungkan pernikahan kira-kira empat jam maut dalam kemalangan jalan raya di Jalan Kangar-Padang Besar, dekat Pokok Sena di sini hari ini.
Pengantin tersebut, Aris Abdul Kadir, 23, maut bersama-sama bapanya, Abdul Kadir Awang, 56, ibunya, Habshah dan seorang jurugambar pengantin, Farhan Musa, 18.
Kejadian berlaku ketika mereka dalam perjalanan pulang ke rumah di Taman Melati Indah, Padang Besar apabila tayar kereta yang dipandu Abdul Kadir meletup lalu terbabas ke laluan bertentangan sebelum bertembung dengan bas sekolah terbabit. - Utusan

Updates : Source from Berita Harian Online (more details in Berita Harian Online)

TEH Affifah Shahirah Abd Hamid tidak dapat menahan sebak ketika menziarahi jenazah suaminya, Mohd Ariff Ab Kadir yang maut bersama tiga lagi dalam kemalangan di Kangar tengah hari semalam, selepas pulang dari majlis akad nikah di rumahnya, di Alor Setar. Beliau sempat bersalaman dengan suaminya dan menerima kucupan pada dahinya pada majlis membatalkan wuduk selepas pernikahan pada jam 10 pagi sebelum kemalangan pada jam 1.05 minit tengah hari.

MOHD Ariff dan isteri pada majlis akad nikah mereka, semalam.

..Macam-Macam Masalah Rumahtangga..

Today a friend of mine needed someone to talk to and so, being not-so-busy me, I lend her my ears or more of, I lend her my eyes coz it’s only words that I see in the YM (Yahoo Messenger) :p.

She had a fight with her husband last night and it drags until this morning and so, she was really mad especially when she ‘thinks’ that it was her husband’s fault and not hers.

If you asked me after listening to her story, of course I would be siding her but the thing is, I am an outsider and I do not know what was the real situation and plus the husband might have his reasons as well and it’s only fair that if I knew both sides of the story, right?

Anyways, that actually leads me to highlighting few scenarios that occur in our daily marriage life and you might be experiencing the same thing too!!

Scenario 1 :
The wife was angry with the husband and ended up they were quarreling really terrible and the wife starts to throw things to him. Then, the husband left. She became much more furious. She called him and told him that she was not finished with him but the husband just said, you are throwing things and so, I might as well just go.

Wife throw things to express her anger and also, maybe to get attention from the husband and plus, she was probably at loss of words.

Husband wants the wife to calm down before they could even start a discussion and so, he just left the scene and plus, if he is around he would probably get hurt.

Miss Who-Thinks-She-Knows-It-All : Yes, the fault would probably be the husband’s or even the wife’s but first things first, wife shouldn’t be throwing stuff no matter how bad it is because that would not solve anything and it is just a temporary satisfaction. Maybe, the wife should be thinking if I were to throw things, No 1, I am the who have to clean up the mess later on or I probably need to buy back whatever is broken. Bukankah itu satu kerugian?

And as for the husband, maybe instead of leaving the scene perhaps it’s a good idea to just throw yourself to her, meaning catch her and hug her and hold her tight, yes, she would probably be screaming and struggling too! Just ignore!! Coz that would be the best time for you to do your explanation.

Of course, I understand why the husband leaves, just so that the wife can have her own time to think and calm down but, sometimes woman doesn’t want to calm down by herself. She wants to be comforted and to be calmed by the husband himself. Get it?

Scenario 2 :
It was merely a misunderstanding, wife was busy in the house and not knowing that the kid was playing with bottle of water and ended up the kid’s clothes was all wet. Husband took the bottle away from the kid and instead of putting it properly somewhere he threw the bottle to the wall. Wife saw it and scolded husband on why he had to do that in front of the kids and to add more embarrassment, the neighbours saw the whole scene.

Wife then locked herself in the room and husband totally ignored her.

Wife was mad because husband was not showing a good example by throwing the bottle to the wall, making a scene outside the house with neighbours looking, for ignoring her when she wanted to be consoled and finally, not knowing what was his fault and not saying sorry.

Husband accidently threw the bottle a little bit hard on the wall, he thinks wife scolding him for a small matter and why does he have to comfort the wife when he does nothing wrong and so, he just left her alone to calm herself down in the room and lastly, why does he needs to apologize when it was totally nothing.

Miss Who-Thinks-She-Knows-It-All : Yes, wife have the right to be angry of how the husband reacted but instead of ‘bebel’ she could probably use a softer approach in which is talk about it later in bed and not just, explode it there and then. Reason being, if she says that he is not showing a good example to the kids and making a scene outside for the neighbours to gossip and so, the wife is doing exactly the same thing by dragging the scene to become hotter!

And as for the husband, saying sorry doesn’t mean that you lose or anything near that. Try to evaluate back what had happened coz maybe to you, it was nothing but your wife is not you and the way she looked at it is different, you might want to just try to put yourself at your wives shoes at times. Wife will definitely put ‘tantrums’ just so that you would be aware that their angry and so, do not ignore and try to win her back.

After all, marriage is all about compromising and maybe it is a good idea when you are having bad times with your partners, try to remember how it was like when both of you dated each other, how he struggle to get you notice, how she always dress to kill just so that you would be impressed, think about the ‘big day’ and lots more.

Barbara De Angelis:
Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

..Naik 4kg?..

I went for check up last Friday and to my horror, I gained 4kg from 62.2kg to 66.5kg. My doctor scolded me because she said the allowable weight gain was only 2kg per month.

Actually, even me, myself I do not believe that I have gained that much because it’s not as if I eat more than I used to and plus, somehow I just think that the nurse didn’t take the measurement correctly and to justify, that night, I went to Jusco and weight myself and true enough, I was only 63kg and the day after, I weight myself again at my parents house and it is just 64kg! Only after that, I felt a bit ok! Heheh..

And it seems that, not only me who is gaining the extra load but even, my little one which the doctor says was supposed to weight around 800gm to 900gm weighted 1.2kg :p.

As for the rest, everything looks normal.

So, there you go, we have a healthy mommy and a healthy baby too!!!

..Kemalasan Melanda..

Kalau ikutkan cerita banyak benar benda nak share but, I feel so lazyyyy... initially, when I started blogging I thought that I could at least make a point to blog once in two days if not every single day.. but, apparently... itu tidak berlaku... hahaha...

Malas masa pregnant 'baby kecik' ini amat-amatlah mencanak-canak!!!

Bukan setakat malas memasak.. malas buat kerja.. tapi, malas mem'blog' juga...

Isk..isk.. bahaya, bahaya!!!

Hopefully, my baby is not going to be as lazy as 'mumsy'... :p

..Cepatnya Masa Berlalu..

Pejam, celik, pejam, celik, I am already 27 weeks pregnant. Macam tak percaya jer… manataknya, for 7 consecutive years my perut tak berisi selain dari isi-isian yang hampir setiap hari di buang tu adalah kan… *evil grin*

Anyways, berbalik kepada cerita tadi.. yes, it’s that long! I was not pregnant for 7 years and I was happy just being a mother of two.

You see, my last two pregnancies can be considered as very smooth and easy from the day I got to know I was pregnant up till the delivery day itself.

Of course I would be lying if there’s not a single feeling of pregnancy lah kan.. memang ada but, it’s very minimal. Earlier stage for the first two, I would demam for a week or so and time tu lah, baru terhegeh-hegeh nak check, “Eh! Aku pregnant ker?”.. heheh..

And then, morning sickness yang juga sangat minima iaitu hanyalah muntah air liur sahaja maybe sewaktu gosok gigi.. butttttt.. langit tidak selalunya biru or cerahkan.. because, for my very third pregnancy… mak ai!!! Penangan nya terlalu hebat dan terlalu lah lain nya..

Kalau dulu aku cergas and very active sampai hubby risau.. but, sekarang aku lembik dan malas sampai hubby risau juga.. hahaha…

If back then, I would have certain cravings for food although actually all other foods pun aku telan but at the same time, mesti lah ada supplement mocha frappucino and cheesecake time si Kakak and Cantonese Kuey Teow time si Dedek tapi… time si budak kecik dalam perut ni pulak, I don’t at all feel like eating anything.. early stages I lost 3kgs due to tak lalu makan, but after that my eating becomes better but even then it is limited to macam nasi goreng ikan masin, mihun goreng or masakan thai/western pada waktu malamnya. Other than that, tekak tak leh terima beb!! Not just that, ikan aku memang tolak ke tepi.. ayam pun cam hanyir jer.. seafood lagi ler tak sentuh.. harapkan daging jer lah yang sedap!!! Itupun sekali-sekala jer..

Kalau dulu, memang rajin ke dapur.. hari-hari masak tapi, sekarang pergi ke dapur pun kalau boleh tak nakkkk!!!! Mak aku pun dah bising… “apa nak jadik ngan ko nih?” :p

Itulah kan, don’t you challenge penangan “buatan orang” ni.. memang tak leh main-main.. kalau kebetulan senang.. alhamdulillah lah kan.. but, kalau kebetulan “susah” sikit.. what else can you do, other than.. pray to GOD hopefully, he will help to make the whole “journey” easy..

Hahah.. actually kan, aku pun dah tak tahu aku bebel pasal apa dah ni.. because dah melalut-lalut jadiknya..

But to those who is looking forward to get pregnant, janganlah pulak takut. Pregnancy can be a joy and also it can be a discomfort to many but whatever it is, the end-product is the most treasured and valuable to all/most “parents”.

You just have to get yourself physically and mentally prepared for it. Other than that, you just have to follow the flow ;).

Pregnancy differs from one to another. Even me, myself dah dapat rasakan sekarang. Just like what my friend told me, “tulah.. dulu you tak pernah rasakan all the ‘being pregnant’ symptom but now, ha… all-in-one, semua perasaan dan sakit yang tak pernah rasa, you rasa kan?” Well, that’s the beauty of it because none of us know what or how it feels like every single time. So, it is totally a surprise!!

Just some tips to share with pregnant mothers/soon-to-be-pregnant-mothers too:

• Makanlah makanan yang bernutrien or yang rich with folate, iron, calcium, fibre and protein but kalau tak lalu makan, leh lah makan supplement yang doctor bagi seperti asid folic dan obimin but, extra supplement pun ok jugak just that before taking whatever that you want to take, always ask your doctor. Janganlah main belasah sahaja.
• Breakfast jangan tinggal. Ini juga amat penting before you start your day.
• Drink lots of water. Ini memang mesti!!
• If possible, aim to do at least 30 minutes of moderate activity. Walking in the parks would also be a good option other than window-shopping. Hehe..
• And also, sit back and enjoy the miracles of pregnancy and birth

Oh yes!! Before I end this longggg entry, I have something else to share ;).

Correct timing to take water, will maximize its effectiveness to Human body.
• Two (02) glasses of water - After waking up - Helps activate internal organs
• One (01) glass of water - 30 minutes before meal - Help digestion
• One (01) glass of water - Before taking a bath - Helps lower blood pressure
• One (01) glass of water - Before sleep - To avoid stroke or heart attack

So, that's all peeps! Good nite :D.

..Examination Tricks..

Mari kita tengok, siapakah yang lebih bijak??? Hehehe.. cute jer kan ;).

Tu lah kan.. anak-anak sekarang, semenjak dua menjak dah jadik zaman cyber ni... dah terlebih bijak.. semakin hari, semakin cerdik... memanglah bagus.. but, pada waktu yang sama.. kita ibu-ibu dan bapa-bapa ni tak bolehlah ketinggalan kan, perlulah jugak updatekan diri untuk menjadi lebih bijak.. supaya kita dapat menangani apa saja permasalahan bila berhadapan dengan kerenah mereka ;).

Heheh.. tak tahu lah cemana bila time Kakak and Dedek dah pandai and dah boleh ambik exam cam tu... teringin gak nak tahu!!